10-20-2006, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted by Zlug
 That's a long information. It might be interesting
But hey, I won't be able to stare at my screen and to read all these..
Thanks for posting it. The best thing to do is to print it and to read it afterwards
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come on, that's hardly half a page there and still you don't want to read it? well at least you're being honest about it.
anyway...
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Originally Posted by mushy
A promise ring is a rather ambiguous little piece of jewellery.
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ambiguous for the person who doesn't know what he's promising, to whom and why
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What is a promise ring, anyway? Yes, it is a pretty little ring, usually given by one person to another, but what does it mean? What is the wearer promising? What is the giver promising? Is there an official definition?
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most probably not, just as fidelity, commitment, love, life and death do not have the same meaning for everyone
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Originally Posted by mushy
When I heard that an acquaintance had just received a promise ring from her boyfriend, I wondered what exactly that meant, but was too polite to ask.
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too polite... or too embarassed to look like a dense bloke?
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Originally Posted by mushy
Does it mean she's engaged? Planning to be engaged? Or is the ring just a nice present from her boyfriend?
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she most probably would have told you, but maybe it's none of your business anyway
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Originally Posted by mushy
One Mac student (who wishes to remain nameless)
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does it look like we care?
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Originally Posted by mushy
believes that the promise ring is "a sort of pre-engagement ring, like you're promising to be engaged." The idea is that you wear the promise ring when you intend to get married, then when you actually decide to get married in the near future, you wear an engagement ring, and after the vows are spoken you wear a wedding band.
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once again, this is just another definition which is now added to the endless list of already existing definitions. and once again, should we care that this student feels this way? to begin with the student preferred to remain anonymous... which most probably means that he/she doesn't want to be honest and hence, can't be trying to do us any special good.
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Originally Posted by mushy
It's a hierarchy of jewellery, in which each ring is more beautiful and expensive than the last.
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and on top of that the student seems to be a person who is very materialistic… hence his/her opinion is not at all representative of the mass
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Originally Posted by mushy
Others feel that the promise ring is a "token of a certain level of commitment, although not quite engagement." In this case, the promise ring is an evolution of the fraternity pin--remember all of those movies set in the 1950s, where girls would scream hysterically "I've been pinned"?
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Finally one point… indeed everything lies in evolution.
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Originally Posted by mushy
It's a promise of fidelity, of monogamy. It's also a subtle message to all would-be admirers that the wearer of the ring is already taken, and they should stay far, far away.
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But does that really happen? Do admirers really stay far, far away? They don’t, do they? So don’t you think we should confine the promise to being between the two people concerned and not the whole of the world population?
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Originally Posted by mushy
A more cynical student feels that promise rings are just something guys give their girlfriends so that neither party experiences any guilt when they have pre-marital sex. This way, if the man is accused of using his girlfriend for sex, he can point to the ring on her finger, and remind her that she possesses a physical reminder of his long-term love and commitment.
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Rightly said, a CYNICAL student. Once again, not representative of the mass. What can a person, who doesn’t believe in anything other than negative things, say about something related to the beauty of love, fidelity and commitment? Or simply, a promise?
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Originally Posted by mushy
As we all know, however, some of these relationships do end, and the promise can be broken.
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That does not mean that all the promises made were not sincere and this also means that some people just use the concept of promise ring to satisfy their own selfish needs.
Last edited by ReXXaZoR : 10-31-2006 at 11:04 AM.
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ah no mate, this time i'll choose war instead of love 
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